Friday 21 June 2019 ,
Latest News
Bangladesh fastest economy in Asia-Pacific: ADB | Govt to introduce health insurance: PM | Ex-MP Rana gets bail in double murder case | Increase transparency in climate budget: BCAF | Upbeat Tigers take on Australia on Thursday |
24 May, 2019 00:00 00 AM

Print

How to keep suicide from teen minds

Sumitra Nair
How to keep suicide from teen minds

“I should just go and kill myself.” These words from a teenager are petrifying, especially for parents. For, suicide is the second common cause of death among youngsters.

Most often families and friends are unable to comprehend why their loved ones would take such a drastic step.

 Suicidal thought is a silent killer stalking young minds. Why does it haunt teen minds? It’s called toxic socialisation — a process of childhood abuse and neglect. Young minds are poisoned easily. Parents are unaware of the thoughts that torment youngsters, who think that ending their lives is the only solution to their troubles.

The suicide note of a teenager says, “The more you try to forget me, more my soul will rest in peace”. In his note, the boy blamed himself and the education system for the immense pressures and the recklessness of the university in barring him from examinations.

Pressures are probably one reason for the suicidal tendency among teenagers. Nearly 90 per cent of the teenagers who killed themselves have battled depression or other issues that tortured their minds.

Let’s look at the reasons behind suicides:

Fear of failure: We live in a competitive world. We want our children to be doctors or engineers. Parents or other family members don’t settle for anything less. In such a situation, children face a dilemma: chase their dreams or follow the diktats of parents. Pursuing their passion could be immensely satisfying, but that may not result in a financially rewarding career. The path preferred by parents may secure a safe and stable future. So to keep the family happy and avoid the fear of failure, children give up their dreams and ambitions. That leads to frustration and depression.

Peer pressure: The wrong sort of friends and colleagues can create turbulence in adolescent minds. Youngsters often compete against each other and want to prove themselves to be the best. That’s common, and there’s nothing wrong with it. But excessive pressure can be counterproductive. The burden of expectation and the reality of a setback can be so crushing that they resort to drastic steps.

Social environment: Criticism is common in our society. Some of it can be very virulent and scathing. But much care should be taken while criticising teenagers and their actions. Or else, it can scar them, and wreak havoc on their self-esteem. That will have consequences, leading them to think that their lives are worthless.

Violence: Chronic exposure to violence during childhood can cause lasting damage to young minds. Children who suffer abuse often end up committing suicide. A staggering one in three teenagers is prone to taking such extreme measures.

Exposure to violence and violent environments should be curbed. It should not even manifest in words too; parents have to be aware that there may be situations when exposure to violence cannot be averted. If that happens, students should be able to seek the guidance of teachers, counsellors or parents. Such interactions will help heal and reduce trauma.

How can we prevent children from taking their lives? Parents have a very important role. They have to change the way they raise, educate and socialise with children. Abuse is no solution to any issues involving children. If a teen brings up a subject that can even be aggressive, parents have to pay attention and address it smoothly. Toxic socialisation should stop.

Schools play an important role in healing. Educational institutions must ensure that toxic behaviour like bullying is unacceptable. Teachers should earn the trust of students, only then can they help the youngsters. Awareness programmes are essential to instil sense security among adolescents.

If parents and teachers work in unison, we can help our children to live a full and happy life.

The writer is an Indian lawyer and blogger

 

Comments

Poll
Today's Question »
State minister for power Nasrul Hamid yesterday said everyone to have access to electricity by June. Do you think the feat achievable by the timeframe?
 Yes
 No
 No Comment
Yes 49.6%
No 46.3%
No Comment 4.1%
Most Viewed
E-Paper
More Op-ed stories
Data protection fundamental rights Data is something we take it for granted,however, data protection should be one of our big priorities.Sharing data may bring benefitson the other hand it is not without risks. Personal data reveals a…

Copyright © All right reserved.

Editor : M. Shamsur Rahman

Published by the Editor on behalf of Independent Publications Limited at Media Printers, 446/H, Tejgaon I/A, Dhaka-1215.
Editorial, News & Commercial Offices : Beximco Media Complex, 149-150 Tejgaon I/A, Dhaka-1208, Bangladesh. GPO Box No. 934, Dhaka-1000.

Editor : M. Shamsur Rahman
Published by the Editor on behalf of Independent Publications Limited at Media Printers, 446/H, Tejgaon I/A, Dhaka-1215.
Editorial, News & Commercial Offices : Beximco Media Complex, 149-150 Tejgaon I/A, Dhaka-1208, Bangladesh. GPO Box No. 934, Dhaka-1000.

Disclaimer & Privacy Policy
....................................................
About Us
....................................................
Contact Us
....................................................
Advertisement
....................................................
Subscription

Powered by : Frog Hosting